Will you get married?
Is it on your radar of things to do? how about kids? do you want kids, if so how much?
Personally, I don't believe in marriage and have little patience for kids.
//if this is a redundant thread, I apologize, but I guess there is nothing wrong with reiterating your love plans.
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Absolutely, I plan to get mar
Absolutely, I plan to get married, and love that I live in Canada where I can do so. I'm great with kids, and have always wanted some, so yeah, I want kids too. I want to adopt alot, and give them a good home. Maybe 6 or 7, hell maybe even 8!
I want to be a father, just t
I want to be a father, just to show my dad that i am capable of doing something right. I want to be there for my kids if i ever have them. The only thing i am worried about is bringing up a child in a situation where there are 2 fathers. I have a gay dad, and when he came out it was devestating, so i dont really know what i would do. If i find the right man i will get married, eventually. And i live in canada so yay
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The situation is COMPLETELY
The situation is COMPLETELY different when the child is raised knowing that his/her parents are gay. In fact, in a family with two mothers or fathers, the child doesn't really have to be told that they're together, they just figure it out. It's more devastating to a child to be raised to hate everyone who isn't heterosexual and Caucasian. Sure, the way the child is raised might be different, but no two families are the same anyway. A family shouldn't be defined by the sexuality of the parents.
Yes...I wanna get
Yes...I wanna get married...I will move to Canada if I have to...It was never something I was able to consider not doing, I dunno...I want to get married and have a bunch of kids...like...8. But I'm crazy...I grew up with a big family, even though it wasn't my family, I was always with them, so I kinda like the whole gigantic family thing...
If I find someone I want to s
If I find someone I want to spend the rest of my life with...I will marry them. And if tha tis the case, I would like kids (mind you I'd like to adopt) and I think I'd like a big family of 4-8 kids. Or I'd love to be a foster parent also.
If I found someone who would
If I found someone who would stay with me a LOT longer than twelve days and we were in love and WANTED to get married, sure!
As for kids, I want them either way- married or not. I want maybe two, maybe more... At least one girl.
~My soul is painted like the wings of butterflies
Fairy tales of yesterday will grow but never die
I can fly, my friend~ Queen
Fosho
I do want to get married, it is on my radar, and I do want kids. I want to marry in my late 20's or early 30's. I want kids in my early to mid 30's. But first gay marriage has to be legalized and yah... but time will see.
I don't feel that I need to g
I don't feel that I need to go through the whole marriage ceremony to show my committment to someone, however I do want it legalized because I hate that I am denied the right to do so, but if it was important to my partner and I really loved them I would.
As for kids, I have a bunch of siblings, all of which want to breed, and two of which have already, so as far as that goes, if I want to be around kids I can hang out with theirs. I wouldn't have kids of my own because the idea totally squicks me and I get really uncomfortable around pregnant people so I don't know if I could handle my partner being pregnant, but I'm totally open to adoption and would really prefer that anyway.
I had a friend that asked me if I would have his baby once, before I knew he was gay, and I'm tempted to exact retribution on him at some point and ask if he'll donate sperm so that I can be a lesbian mommy...but he would probably say yes and then it would be awkward.
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I hope....
I hope to find someone to spend my life with and I do want kids someday. As for marriage i'd love to get married to my love, but seeing as how they don't allow it in the US i'd have to go to Europe or Canada. But i have no problem with either of those options!
"The French are glad to die for love, they delight in fighting duels. But I like a man who lives, and gives expensive jewels"
hehe
I'm fundamentally against the marriage institution, and therefore do not plan to become a part of it. Living with a guy will probably be as commited I will ever get. I want to be free, and not be tied to the chains of legal agreements such as these.
When it comes to kids.. ummmm.. just no!
Lovers come and go, friends stay forever :D
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same here
haha, me too. i think the idea of marriage is stupid. the government shouldn't care or recognize anyone's marriage. i don't see the point of it at all.
i secretly loath every woman i see dragging kids in the street. do you guys ever notice how cute babies are? it is a ploy to get us all to love them, and it works every time. if that's not satanic conspiracy, i don't know what is.
I wanna get married someday,
I wanna get married someday, butr it would definitely be something id'd have to think out. I live in Canada, where we arew now allowed to gwet married, so I'm totally gonna take advantage of it if I wanna. But babies... No thank you.
I definetly intend to get mar
I definetly intend to get married. I have a really serious relationship with my girlfriend... Dunno if she's up for marrying, but I want to marry her. She means the world to me and I am more than willing to commit to being hers for eternity.
Kids? uh... no. lol. I personally don't think I'd be a very good mother... XD
~*~following this dream is all that keeps me alive~*~
yes to marriage and yes to ki
yes to marriage and yes to kids maybe 2 or 3"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, it's about learning how to DANCE IN THE RAIN."
i dont believe in marriage.
i dont believe in marriage. i think that if you need the law to tell you you can be together and then keep you together, it isnt real. i havent really seen to many successful marriages around me. dont get me wrong, i still believe in gay marriage on principle and equality and all that, but not for me. i would like a kid though. but in general, the whole picket fence idea just doesnt really do it for me.
"if young love is just a game then i must have missed the kick off"
Kids
this might sound very unrealistic but maybe no to marriage and yes to kids. i really think marriage is just a state of mind... but comitting to something like children is like big, and i guess i want to be apart of that.
Not saying i don't want to spend the rest of my life with someone... just whatever.
I want to get married someday
I want to get married someday, and I want to have 2 kids(at most), but I don't want to get pregnant.Haha.
"You have to take risks...We will only understand the miracle of life fully if we allow the unexpected to happen."
-Paulo Coelho
only if WE can get married to
only if WE can get married to our partners!!!! Sad thing is, even Eminem [sic] thinks it should be allowed. (Listen to "The Real Slim Shady" if you don't know what I mean!!!!)
Poor is the man
Whose pleasures depend
On the permission of another
Love me, that's right, love me
I wanna be your baby
Wanting, needing, waiting
For you to justify my love
Hoping, praying
For you to justify my love
I'm open and ready
~Madonna
ummm
you mean the other way around, right? who cares about eminem any way? he is nothing more than a grain of sand in the shore line of time and that's even pushing his status. he is in fact, much much lower than that.
No.
Marriage is a fundamentally oppressive institution. We'd all be better off it it were done away with entirely.
Change is the only constant.
Even if you win the race, you're still a rat.
Workers of the world unite: you have nothing but your chains to lose, and you have a world to win.
Direct Action!
Possibly
I've never been overly keen on marriage for me,
but I'm not going to always refuse either. I
definatly want to adopt kids though
"Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suf-fer-ing"
I know this is a old forum but no point in starting the same one
I'm not sure if I want to get married or not. I want to be in a serious commited relationship but I don't know if I will ever get married it really depends on what my partner and I want and what we feel is right. I live in Canada as well, which is totally cool that we can get married and do as we please.
As for children, I absolutely want at least two children and maybe even a bigger family say like 5 kids. But I don't want to give birth, I don't think thats for me but I would totally be supportive of my partner getting pregnant or else we would adopt which I would totally be up to. I think if I didn't have children I would regret it and would miss out on a great experience.
i want to and i WILL get
i want to and i WILL get married.. assuming i find the right partner. And i want a TON of kids. I want enough to fit in a minivan. It'd be great. I'll probably be a foster parent i know i want at least one biological kid whether it comes from me or my partner or joint effort. And adopt at least one i think four would be the most i'd want that are MINE. but like i'd foster as many as possible.
~~~Fear is only a verb if you let it be.. don't you dare let go of my hand~~~
probably
I mean, if I find a person I want to spend my life with, then yes. And I hope I do. I think marriage would be good for me. Kids? Not now, of course, but I feel like they'll be in my future.
No one has a right to sit down and feel hopeless; there is too much work to do.--Dorothy Day
I will marry when everyone
I will marry when everyone in this country can do the same.
Kids? I'd love to have kids... but I'd like to adopt, maybe, and it would definately be cool to be a foster parent. Maybe study phycology in college for a basic knowledge of messed-up kids. Study teaching, or something... classes that'd help me be a foster parent. I'd love to help all those kids in need.
Whatever I did, I didn't do it.
yes to both
I live in the US so technicaly I can't get married but I'd like to commit myself to someone, if I found someone who I liked so much I wanted to spend my life with them. I also want to have kids, I love little kids, they're so much fun (after they get past the stage when they do nothing but eat, sleep, burp, and cry, so after about 2 years). But I will never give birth. The idea of pooping out a kid just doesn't appeal to me, I'm too picky about what's allowed to go in or come out of my vagina (no penises, tampons, babies, etc. It just creeps me out)
"gay: cheerful and lighthearted; merry." - The American Heritage Dictionary.
....
Yes, I want to get married, and I want at least a son. If my wife wants more kids than that I probably won't argue, but I want a son really, really bad.
Don't apologize for calling me Sir
InDeCiSiOn
I'd like to get married, but I don't know if I could stand it. I mean, I like being by myself. I'm a pretty solitary person. I don't know if I would be able to tolerate living with the same person for years and years and years. But at the same time, the romantic in me wants to get married to the woman I fall in love with and adopt a child with her. I think if I found someone who I loved so much that I was willing to spend the rest of my life with her, then I wouldn't be quite so commitment-phobic. Well, I'm not commitment-phobic; I'd love to be in a committed relationship. It's the living together thing that bothers me. I'm worried about getting sick of the person I get married to.
Yeah...I have issues. -_-
But I'd love to adopt a kid. I like the idea of being able to provide for a child who needs some love and affection. I don't want to give birth, since I don't know if I could stand the pain, and besides, there are already enough kids out there that need parents. I don't want to bring another child into the world, I want to help a kid that's already here.
"Women in rubber will ALWAYS be flirting with me!" --Maureen in the musical RENT
only when the government
only when the government legally recogizes gay couples. It's a bit hypocritical that a man and a woman of either or sometimes both different in religious beliefs and race. Adoption should also be allowed for gay couples. I mean it's not like we're gonna treat these kids as if they were being taken to the zoo and left there for gorillias to raise. Who cares if the kid has two moms or two dads as long as they are getting love?
Poor is the man
Whose pleasures depend
On the permission of another
Love me, that's right, love me
I wanna be your baby
Wanting, needing, waiting
For you to justify my love
Hoping, praying
For you to justify my love
I'm open and ready
~Madonna
We'll See
I WILL have children. I have no doubts about that at all. I'm just like my mom-- family is my top priority. However, I'm not so sure about getting married. Sure, I want to find someone to love and raise my kids with, but I have trouble imagining that it will actually happen. I just don't think I'll be that lucky.
I really do want to get
I really do want to get married, but I will probably do it after I become a doctor. I also want kids, but since I already know that I can't have them because a medical accident. I will adopt, but I don't want to adopt a baby. I hope I can find some one who would also like to adopt an older child. I want to adopt an older child because I am friends with a lot of kids who were in the foster care system and never adopted because they were too sick. I saw how much that sucked so I would like to adopt a bunch of kids, to save them from that misery.
V is the bomb, he blows with anarchy!!!
I definitely want to have
I definitely want to have a child someday, hopefully a daughter. If I end up on my own I’ll probably just have one kid. I might have two if I have a partner. If in the course of human events I find a woman I love and am willing to spend the rest of my life with, then I will get married. I’ve seen some marriages that really worked out, and some that haven’t. My parents marriage worked out really well for them, and I’ve seen how a long-term partnership can really enriches their lives. My mom and dad always seem to be able to work together and have each other to lean on. I would be happy to have something like that in my life, but I’ll take what the future brings.
It depends where I end up.
It depends where I end up. If I stay in Massachusetts or go to Spain or Canada or something, and find somebody whom I love, who loves me, who wants to start a family, and we can find a place that will be tolerant of two lesbians raising children, and can find an adoption agency that allows us to adopt... in short, if a miracle occurs, yes.
Yes and Yes
I believe in love and marriage (which is odd -the marriage part not the love part- seeing that everyone in my immediate family is divorced ), and even if my marriage won't be recognized by the government, I'd still get married in a church with my family and friends all around me and what not. [can't leave the US to get married, cause then who will change the US's policies] and I want two or three kids, but I wouldn't kids till my thirties, which at the moment seems like quite a bit away.
Love Happens
My plan for life is to go to
My plan for life is to go to Hawaii, get married to my girlfriend there, move back to North Carolina and have four kids in the next seven years following that. But then again I'd like to adopt instead of having kids the world is getting overcrowded and there are kids out there that need homes, so yes but with variations.
Adoption
Adoption is awesome. Major kudos for thinking of that instead of giving birth...major kudos. Good luck to you.
peace,
Bulldyke
"Hello world. I am me."
Nothing can stop me
I am definitely going to get married and have kids. Some of my friends (the straight ones actually) talk about how they don't really want to get married and only want one kid, if any.
On the other hand, if I were older and actually had money, I would do it right-freaking-now!
If I'm wiht a woman I prolly
If I'm wiht a woman I prolly won't get married. Girls seem to cheat on me alot.
If I'm with a guy, then yeah if we move to a place where we can.
Kids? Maybe 2 or three at most. I'm not too good when they are between like 5-9.
~Rob Halford'll kick your ass~
Yes
If California doesn't legalize it, then a domestic partnership. And commitment ceremony.
As for kids...we'll see. I want to adopt one or two, but want my partner to myself for a few years first.
"She's a mystery
She's too much for me
But I keep coming back for more
She's just the girl I'm looking for"
-The Click Five "Just the Girl"
I want to have a family of
I want to have a family of my own someday, with 2 kids.
"I guess I could be pretty pissed off about what happened to me... but it's hard to stay mad, when there's so much beauty in the world. "- Lester Burnham, American Beauty
Marriage and kids...hmmm
Right now, if I could plan my entire life out, and know that I would never want anything else, I'd say 'hell yeah, I want to get married!' So yeah, right now, I'd really love to marry my girlfriend and settle down in San Francisco with her to raise two or three kids. I'd be happy with just one, but she wants a ton of 'em, and just so long as I can be the one bringing in the bacon, I'm okay with it. Yeah, I suppose you could say that I want to get married and have kids.
peace,
Bulldyke
"Hello world. I am me."
Um...
I'm kinda uncertain. Yes, I do want to get married, but for right now it's not a priority. I think I'd like to get my Master's degree before I settle down. And if/when I get married, I'd like it to be just me and her for a few years. Maybe 3. Then I'd like her to have a child, and if she doesn't want to give labor then we could always adopt.
i hope so.... if it's legal
i hope so....
if it's legal and i find the right person....
"Yes! No! Oh, damn!"
Been Married Once
Stupidest thing I ever did. I can't stand kids, and got fixed before I had sex. I like having discretionary money, time, undisturbed sleep, less stress, and all that. Can we say freedom from gratuitous obligation?
Well
I don't want to get married and I don't want to have kids. If for some reason I want to get married I'm going to wait untill I'm done with my four years of college and have a steady job. I don't want kids at all I don't like them some people are ment to have kids and some aren't I'm the some who aren't more power to all you who want to have kids.
To be afraid is to be human.
I want to get married.
I want to get married and I suppose I would eventually want to have kids. Although I don't really like kids too much, but were both older and there isn't much else to do I suppose I would want to. Or even if my future husband wanted children I wouldn't object (but I might delay) Also I'm afraid of other kids picking on my kid for having two fathers, so I guess I'll have to see how tolerant the world (and kids) are at the time.
Yeah I want to get
Yeah I want to get married...I think? Obviously that's way far off, but eh--I mean I don't want to necessarily make marriage important. I find it complicated--marriage seems like conforming to a standard of love set by society (and I'm not big on conforming) and isn't necessary to show how much you love someone...but then marriage would (when/if it's legalized) (hell I might have to move for it) give some sort of (legal) benefeits...I don't know omg I'm not going to think about it right now.
As for kids, yeah I totally want kids. I would want 1 or 2 of my own, and 1 or 2 adopted. Something like that. Idk I don't have to think about it yet.